i forgive you and i forgive myself
a few days ago, i received a friend request from a friend whom i had a bad fallout with a few years ago. i was over the moon at the request. let the truth be told. i have often thought about him most especially in the last year. after accepting his request, i saw him online and i initiated a conversation.
i said, hey thank you for the request. first let me start by saying, can you ever forgive a f*****g idiot like me?
he laughed and said, ” i understood why you were so angry then”.
while i will not go into the details of our argument. i recently evaluated how i have been as a person in the past, present and who i want to be in the future. the fact of the matter is , i don’t really like the person i was. i was unemphatic, spoke too hastily , bad – tempered and egoistic ( the ego part needs a bit a work, i must admit)
have you ever felt like you deserve a second chance? or the fact you wished you could go back to a time to undo some of the mistakes you have made? maybe that is why we aspire movies like back to the future. but we can’t and we just have to move forward.
i have been observing the lives of many fascinating people. one of the important keys to happiness is i think – taking responsibility for everything we do.
this is because the moment, we say – i am wrong. we instinctively put ourselves in the position of power to change something and to find a solution. i wish more people would dare say they are wrong. so much of dealing with a problem begins when acceptance.
life becomes rather sad when we spend all our time blaming people for the source of our pain don’t you think? so much of today’s society as well do not allow us to see the bigger picture on forgiveness. we do not forgive people for forgiveness sake, we forgive people as it is a great way for us to move forward.