rereading tuesdays with morrie
page 21 – tuesdays with morrie
because morrie sat in the wheelchair, the camera never caught his withered legs. and because he was still able to move his hands- morrie always spoke with both hands waving- he showed great passion when explaining how you face the end of life.
ted, he said. when all this started, i asked myself am i going to withdraw from the world like most people or am i going to live? i decided i am going to live or at least try to live – the way i want, with dignity, with courage, with humor with composure.
page 35- tuesdays with morrie
so many people who come and visit me are unhappy. why?
well for one thing, the culture we have does not allow people to feel good about themselves. we are teaching the wrong things. and you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it. create your own. most people can’t do it. they are more unhappy than me – even in my current condition.
tuesdays with morrie- page 49
do you remember when i told ted koppel that pretty soon someone was gonna have to wipe my ass? he said.
i laughed. you don’t forget a moment like that.
“well i think that day is coming. that one bothers me”.
“because it’s the ultimate sign of dependency.someone wiping your bottom.but i am working on it. i am trying to enjoy the process”
“yes. after all i get to be a baby one more time”
that’s a unique way of looking at it.
tuesdays with morrie – page 56
sometimes in the mornings that’s when i mourn. i feel around my body, i move my fingers and my hands-whatever i can still move and i mourn what i have lost. i mourn the slow, insidious way in which i am dying. but then i stop mourning. i give myself a good cry if i need it. but then i concentrate on all the good things in my life.on the people who are coming to see me. on the stories i am going to hear. on you – if it’s tuesday. because we’re tuesday people.
tuesdays with morrie – page 81
“everyone knows they are going to die” he said again, ” but nobody believes it.if we did, we would do things differently”.
so we kid ourselves about death, i said.
“yes. but there is a better approach.to know you are going to die and to be prepared for it at anytime. that’s better.that way you can actually be more involved in your life while you’re living.
tuesdays with morrie – page 92
say i was divorced or living alone or had no children. this disease -what i am going through- would be so much harder. i am not sure i could do it. sure, people would come visit,friends, associates, but it’s not the same as having someone who will not leave. it’s not the same as having someone whom you know has an eye on you, is watching you the whole time…. it’s what i missed so much when my mother died.- what i call your ” spiritual security-knowing your family will be there watching out for you. nothing else will give you that.not money. not fame.
tuesdays with morrie – page 135
when morrie was with you, he was really with you. he looked you straight in the eyes and he listened as if you were the only person in the world.how much better would people get along if only their first encounter each day were like this- instead of a grumble from a waitress or a bus driver or a boss?
” i believe in being fully present,” morrie said.
tuesdays with morrie – page 157
invest in the human community. invest in people. build a little community of those who love you and who love you back. … in the beginning of life, when we are infants, we need each other to survive, right? and at the end of life, when you get like me, you need each other to survive, right?
his voice dropped to a whisper, ” but here is the secret: in between, we need others as well”.