a child was born today
if i tell you that i love children too much to want to have kids, would you believe me?
i am the one of the strangest people you will meet because there are days i think so much, i wake up in the middle of the night in cold sweat. i think a lot about our children not being able to reach their actual potentials because the world had become too easy for us and for them.
before you disagree with me, please let me continue.
a child’s mind is the most beautiful thing in the world for me.
i was child who grew up in the 1980s. i belonged to a generation call the Ys.
the 1970s and the 1980s were the most amazing time in asia. many of our parents became rich. we became the privileged generation. our parents gave us everything and anything our little hearts desired. we learnt musical instruments, we were tutored by the finest tutors, we were taught from a young age that in order to prosper in this society, there is a set of rules that we need to play by.
everything is so god damned easy for us. we need very mediocre results to get into university. most of the time, you just need to be able to afford it. when we start to work, a lot of our parents’ connections landed us with the so called dream jobs.
we work but at the back of our minds, we know that we always have our parents to fall back on.
this is what frustrates me. my great grandfather was sold to malaya as a slave to work in a mine. he made his money after a few years. he was a man of steel.
i look at my grandfather – he raised six children. he could do anything.
i look at myself. i don’t even know how to slaughter a f**king chicken.
we live in world complete with everything and yet are unfulfilled in so many others.
i feel sorry for children for the same reason. they go school, they learn musical instruments, they learn everything because they have been lied to – they need to play this game.
there is very little left to the hope that life would find a way.
we have no imagination. we have no innovation. we have nothing that drives us because we have no opportunities to develop passions. in fact if you are a little different, your life is a nightmare. you would laughed at, ridiculed and treated with so much alienation.
and this why i feel so sad for children today because – how many of them live lives that truly belonged to them?
and this is why i love children too much to want to have my own kids.